為什麼改變這麼難?空屋困境與生命轉化的真相Why Is Change So Hard? The Empty House Trap and the Truth About Life Transformation

關於我們 | About Us

我們相信一件事 | We Believe One Thing

沒有人應該獨自走完成長的路No One Should Walk the Path of Growth Alone

你有沒有這樣的經驗? Have you had this experience?

你努力改變 You work hard to change

戒掉壞習慣、學習情緒管理、參加各種課程 Quit bad habits, learn emotional management, attend workshops

但為什麼還是感覺少了什麼? But why does something still feel missing?

因為成長不是一個人的事 Because growth isn't a solo effort

而是一段同行的旅程 But a journey of companionship

經文 | Scripture

「二人勝過一人,因為二人勞碌同得美好的果效。若是跌倒,這人可以扶起他的同伴;若是孤身跌倒,沒有別人扶起他來,這人就有禍了。」——傳道書 4:9-10 "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up." —Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

我們是誰 | Who We Are

有機心田:一群在路上的同行者

Terra: A Group of Companions on the Journey

我們不是專家 We're not experts

我們不是完美的人 We're not perfect people

我們是一群: We're a group of people who:

✅ 曾經像「行走的炸彈」,在關係中爆炸 ✅ Were once "walking bombs," exploding in relationships

✅ 曾經心像石頭一樣堅硬,拒絕任何人進入 ✅ Once had hearts hard as stone, refusing anyone to enter

✅ 曾經走落單的路,即使在人群中也感到孤單 ✅ Once walked alone, feeling isolated even in crowds

✅ 曾經靠自己努力到枯竭,卻不知道問題在哪裡 ✅ Once relied on own effort until burnout, not knowing where the problem was

但我們找到了一條路 But we found a path

一條走回天父的路 A path back to the Father

一條從「我」到「我們」的路 A path from "Me" to "We"

一條從石心到肉心的路 A path from stone heart to flesh heart

一條從枯竭到福杯滿溢的路 A path from dry to overflowing cup

我們找到了這條可量化、可複製的路徑 We found this quantifiable, reproducible path

現在,我們想與你分享 Now, we want to share it with you

經文 | Scripture

「我也要賜給你們一個新心,將新靈放在你們裡面,又從你們的肉體中除掉石心,賜給你們肉心。」——以西結書 36:26 "I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit in you; I will remove from you your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh." —Ezekiel 36:26

神應許要給我們新心 God promises to give us new hearts

但這個轉化不是在孤立中發生 But this transformation doesn't happen in isolation

而是在真實的關係中 But in real relationships

我們看見的問題 | The Problem We See

空屋困境:打掃乾淨了,但仍然是空的The Empty House Trap: Cleaned Up, But Still Empty

經文 | Scripture

「污鬼離了人身,就在無水之地過來過去,尋求安歇之處,卻尋不著。於是說:『我要回到我所出來的屋裡去。』到了,就看見裡面空閒,打掃乾淨,修飾好了,便去另帶了七個比自己更惡的鬼來,都進去住在那裡。那人末後的景況比先前更不好了。」——馬太福音 12:43-45 "When an impure spirit comes out of a person, it goes through arid places seeking rest and does not find it. Then it says, 'I will return to the house I left.' When it arrives, it finds the house unoccupied, swept clean and put in order. Then it goes and takes with seven other spirits more wicked than itself, and they go in and live there. And the final condition of that person is worse than the first." —Matthew 12:43-45

耶穌親自講了這個故事 Jesus himself told this story

警告我們:打掃房子還不夠 Warning us: cleaning the house isn't enough

為什麼「打掃房子」還不夠?

Why Isn't "Cleaning the House" Enough?

這是我們看見最核心的問題: This is the most core problem we see:

很多人努力改變信念、改變行為、學習知識 Many people work hard to change beliefs, change behaviors, learn knowledge

但為什麼還是回到老樣子? But why do they return to old patterns?

因為: Because:

僅限於在信念系統上做改變,就像打掃空屋的動作 Only changing belief systems is like the action of cleaning an empty house

屋子是空了,但是沒有生命中的好進來住 The house is empty, but good in life hasn't come to live in it

他們只是「打掃房子」,但沒有「用生命中的好來填滿空屋」 They only "clean the house" but don't "fill the empty house with good in life"

什麼是「生命中的好」?What Is "Good in Life"?

生命中的好,就是新的連結與依戀關係 Good in life is new connections and attachment relationships

不是更多的知識 Not more knowledge

不是更多的方法 Not more methods

不是更好的信念系統 Not better belief systems

而是真實的、穩定的、健康的依戀關係 But real, stable, healthy attachment relationships

經文 | Scripture

「耶穌說:『我就是道路、真理、生命;若不藉著我,沒有人能到父那裡去。』」——約翰福音 14:6 "Jesus answered, 'I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'" —John 14:6

耶穌不只是真理(知識) Jesus isn't just truth (knowledge)

祂是道路(關係的恢復) He is the way (restoration of relationship)

祂是生命(與天父的連結) He is life (connection with the Father)

透過耶穌這道路,我們重建三重連結: Through Jesus the Way, we rebuild three connections:

✅ 與自己的連結 ✅ Connection with yourself

✅ 與他人的連結 ✅ Connection with others

✅ 與天父的連結 ✅ Connection with the Father

當這些連結重建後,空屋就被填滿了 When these connections are rebuilt, the empty house is filled

當穩定的依戀關係成為常態,生命才開始真正轉化 When stable attachment becomes the norm, life truly begins transforming

為什麼我們都害怕依靠?Why We All Fear codependency?

一個痛苦的真相 A Painful Truth

因為我們經歷過「嚇人的依靠」Because We've Experienced "Terrifying Dependence"

讓我問你一個問題: Let me ask you a question:

你在原生家庭中經歷的「依靠」是什麼樣的? What was the "dependence" you experienced in your family of origin like?

對很多人來說: For many people:

那不是負責任的依靠 It wasn't responsible dependence

而是拖累的依靠 But burdensome dependence

經文 | Scripture

「你們作父親的,不要惹兒女的氣,恐怕他們失了志氣。」——歌羅西書 3:21 "Fathers, do not embitter your children, or they will become discouraged." —Colossians 3:21

聖經承認:父母可能會傷害孩子 The Bible acknowledges: parents can hurt children

在不健康的家庭關係中 In unhealthy family relationships

孩子的「我」逐漸褪色與退化 The child's "I" gradually fades and deteriorates

什麼是「拖累的依靠」?What Is "Codependency"?

在不健康的依戀關係中: In unhealthy attachment relationships:

• 你要滿足父母的需要

• You must meet parents' needs

• 你要照顧他們的情緒

• You must care for their emotions

• 你要成為他們期待的樣子

• You must become what they expect

在這個過程中,「我」逐漸褪色與退化 In this process, "I" gradually fades and deteriorates

你不再知道「我是誰」 You no longer know "who I am"

你只知道「別人需要我成為誰」 You only know "who others need me to be"

這種依靠,很嚇人 This kind of dependence is terrifying

所以我們學會了「靠自己」So We Learned to "Rely on Ourselves"

因為「依靠別人」太可怕了 Because "depending on others" is too scary

我們各個都想自己靠自己走 We all want to walk by ourselves

不要跟別人黏在一起 Don't stick together with others

我們告訴自己: We tell ourselves:

• 我不需要任何人

• I don't need anyone

• 我可以自己解決問題

• I can solve problems myself

• 依靠別人就是軟弱

• Depending on others is weakness

這就是「靠自己來滿足自己的需要」 This is "relying on self to meet own needs"

經文 | Scripture

「情慾的事都是顯而易見的,就如姦淫、污穢、邪蕩、拜偶像、邪術、仇恨、爭競、忌恨、惱怒、結黨、紛爭、異端、嫉妒、醉酒、荒宴等類。」——加拉太書 5:19-21 "The acts of the flesh are obvious: sexual immorality, impurity and debauchery; idolatry and witchcraft; hatred, discord, jealousy, fits of rage, selfish ambition, dissensions, factions and envy; drunkenness, orgies, and the like." —Galatians 5:19-21

這就是聖經說的「肉體」(Flesh) This is what the Bible calls "Flesh"

靠自己的力量,用自己的方法,滿足自己的需要 Relying on own strength, using own methods, meeting own needs

而不是倚靠神 Rather than depending on God

但問題來了But Then the Problem Comes

當你建立親密關係時: When you build intimate relationships:

你只能用你唯一知道的依戀模式 You can only use the only attachment pattern you know

那個「嚇人的依靠」 That "terrifying dependence"

結果: Result:

• 你在關係中變成「拖累」

• You become a "burden" in relationships

• 或者你要求對方滿足你所有的需要

• Or you demand the other person meet all your needs

• 或者你完全不敢依靠,築起高牆

• Or you don't dare depend at all, building high walls

你既嚇到別人,也嚇到自己 You scare both others and yourself

所以你的關係總是失敗 So your relationships always fail

所以你又回到「靠自己」 So you return to "relying on yourself"

但「靠自己」的盡頭是枯竭 But the end of "relying on yourself" is burnout

經文 | Scripture

「凡勞苦擔重擔的人可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。」——馬太福音 11:28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." —Matthew 11:28

耶穌看見我們的枯竭 Jesus sees our burnout

祂邀請我們: He invites us:

不要再靠自己,到我這裡來 Stop relying on yourself, come to me

這就是空屋困境的真相This Is the Truth of the Empty House Trap

你努力改變信念 You work hard to change beliefs

你學習新的知識 You learn new knowledge

你參加各種課程 You attend various workshops

但僅限於在信念系統上做改變,就像打掃空屋 But only changing belief systems is like cleaning an empty house

屋子空了,但沒有生命中的好進來住 The house is empty, but good in life hasn't come to live in it

這些都無法消除你早年定下的核心親密關係模式 These cannot eliminate the core intimate relationship pattern set in early years

因為問題不在「知識」 Because the problem isn't "knowledge"

而在「依戀關係」 But "attachment relationships"

經文 | Scripture

「人是看外貌,耶和華是看內心。」——撒母耳記上 16:7 "People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart." —1 Samuel 16:7

神看的不是外表的改變 God doesn't look at surface changes

而是內心深處的依戀模式 But the attachment patterns deep in the heart

改變信念系統之後,你需要的不是更多知識 After changing belief systems, what you need isn't more knowledge

而是透過耶穌這道路,走回與天父重建的依戀關係 But through Jesus the Way, walk back to rebuild attachment with the Father

這才是建立根部系統、打地基最重要的部分 This is the most important part of building root systems and laying foundations

我們的解決方案 | Our Solution

用生命中的好來填滿空屋Fill the Empty House with Good in Life

我們發現: We discovered:

空屋需要被填滿 The empty house needs to be filled

但不是用知識填滿 But not filled with knowledge

不是用方法填滿 Not filled with methods

而是用「生命中的好」來填滿 But filled with "good in life"

什麼是生命中的好? What is good in life?

就是透過耶穌這道路,重建的三重連結與依戀關係 Through Jesus the Way, the three rebuilt connections and attachment relationships

經文 | Scripture

「耶穌說:『我就是道路、真理、生命;若不藉著我,沒有人能到父那裡去。』」——約翰福音 14:6 "Jesus answered, 'I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'" —John 14:6

不是知識帶我們到父那裡 Knowledge doesn't bring us to the Father

而是耶穌這道路 But Jesus the Way

透過祂,我們重建與天父的依戀關係 Through Him, we rebuild attachment with the Father

重建三重連結:從嚇人的依靠到穩定的依戀

Rebuild Three Connections: From Terrifying Dependence to Stable Attachment

第一重:與自己的連結

First: Connection with Yourself

從「我是別人需要的樣子」到「我是我」 From "I am what others need" to "I am me"

在不健康的依戀中: In unhealthy attachment:

• 你不知道自己是誰

• You don't know who you are

• 你的「我」逐漸褪色與退化

• Your "I" gradually fades and deteriorates

• 你只知道如何滿足別人

• You only know how to satisfy others

重建與自己的連結: Rebuilding connection with yourself:

• 誠實面對真實的自己

• Honestly face your true self

• 不再戴面具

• No longer wear masks

• 承認「我需要幫助」

• Admit "I need help"

• 找回「我是誰」

• Recover "who I am"

經文 | Scripture

「你們必認識真理,真理必叫你們得以自由。」——約翰福音 8:32 "Then you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free." —John 8:32

真理不只是知識 Truth isn't just knowledge

真理是認識真實的自己 Truth is knowing your true self

在基督裡的自己 Your self in Christ

這是成長的第一步 This is the first step of growth

第二重:與他人的連結

Second: Connection with Others

從「嚇人的依靠」到「穩定的依戀」 From "terrifying dependence" to "stable attachment"

在不健康的依戀中: In unhealthy attachment:

• 依靠是拖累

• Dependence is burdensome

• 依靠是失去自己

• Dependence is losing yourself

• 所以你寧願走落單的路

• So you'd rather walk alone

重建與他人的連結: Rebuilding connection with others:

• 學習「負責任的依靠」,而不是「拖累的依靠」

• Learn "responsible dependence," not "burdensome dependence"

• 在 4/5 小組中,不拖累地分享與分擔

• In 4/5 groups, share and share burdens without being burdensome

• 不拯救地提問,一起摸索

• Ask questions without rescuing, explore together

• 當你徬徨時,你知道可以回到這裡

• When you're lost, you know you can return here

經文 | Scripture

「你們各人的重擔要互相擔當,如此,就完全了基督的律法。」——加拉太書 6:2 "Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ." —Galatians 6:2

「各人必擔當自己的擔子。」——加拉太書 6:5 "For each one should carry their own load." —Galatians 6:5

聖經教導我們平衡: The Bible teaches us balance:

互相擔當,但不是拖累 Carry each other, but not be burdensome

各自負責,但不是孤立 Each responsible, but not isolated

現在你有機會讓生命中的好重現 Now you have the chance to let good in life reappear

讓穩定的依戀關係成為常態 Let stable attachment relationships become the norm

這是成長的護欄 This is the guardrail of growth

第三重:與耶穌的連結,找到回天父的道路

Third: Connection with Jesus, Finding the Way Back to the Father

從「靠自己滿足需要」到「靠耶穌滿足需要」 From "relying on self to meet needs" to "relying on Jesus to meet needs"

什麼是「肉體」(Flesh)? What is "Flesh"?

很難懂嗎?其實很簡單: Hard to understand? Actually it's simple:

肉體就是「靠自己來滿足自己的需要」 Flesh is "relying on self to meet own needs"

而不是「靠著主來滿足自己的需要」 Rather than "relying on the Lord to meet own needs"

為什麼我們會靠自己? Why do we rely on ourselves?

因為我們經歷過「嚇人的依靠」 Because we've experienced "terrifying dependence"

我們不敢再依靠任何人,包括神 We don't dare depend on anyone anymore, including God

所以我們靠自己 So we rely on ourselves

但靠自己的盡頭是枯竭 But the end of relying on ourselves is burnout

重建與耶穌的連結,找到回天父的道路: Rebuilding connection with Jesus, finding the way back to the Father:

學習「靠著主來滿足自己的需要」 Learning to "rely on the Lord to meet own needs"

經文 | Scripture

「我已經與基督同釘十字架,現在活著的不再是我,乃是基督在我裡面活著。」——加拉太書 2:20 "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me." —Galatians 2:20

這不是理論 This isn't theory

這是 Exchange Life(交換的生命)的核心: This is the core of Exchange Life (Exchanged Life):

• 我的「靠自己」與基督同釘十字架

• My "self-reliance" was crucified with Christ

• 現在活著的不再是靠自己的「我」

• Now it's no longer "I" relying on myself

• 而是基督在我裡面活著

• But Christ living in me

• 我倚靠祂,不再靠自己

• I depend on Him, no longer on myself

在 4/5 小組中,我們一起跌跌撞撞地經歷: In 4/5 groups, we stumble together to experience:

• 當我靠自己時,我枯竭了

• When I rely on myself, I burn out

• 當我倚靠耶穌時,活水湧流

• When I depend on Jesus, living water flows

• 當我讓基督作我的生命,福杯滿溢

• When I let Christ be my life, cup overflows

經文 | Scripture

「人若喝我所賜的水就永遠不渴。我所賜的水要在他裡頭成為泉源,直湧到永生。」——約翰福音 4:14 "Whoever drinks the water I give them will never thirst. Indeed, the water I give them will become in them a spring of water welling up to eternal life." —John 4:14

你需要讓生命插上電源——耶穌基督 You need to plug your life into the power source—Jesus Christ

不再靠自己的努力 No longer relying on own effort

而是讓基督作你的生命 But letting Christ be your life

透過耶穌這道路,找到回天父的道路 Through Jesus the Way, find the way back to the Father

這是成長的源頭 This is the source of growth

當這三重連結透過耶穌重建後: When these three connections are rebuilt through Jesus:

✨ 你的石心成為肉心 ✨ Your stone heart becomes flesh heart

✨ 生命的活水開始湧流 ✨ Living water begins flowing

✨ 福杯滿溢,你成為他人的祝福 ✨ Cup overflows, you become blessing to others

✨ 你找到回天父的道路,建立穩定的依戀關係 ✨ You find the way back to Father, establish stable attachment

✨ 你常常浸泡在好的裡,就會不習慣不好的 ✨ Constantly soaking in good, you become unaccustomed to bad

✨ 你不會再姑息不好的,生命開始分別為聖 ✨ You won't tolerate bad anymore, life begins to be set apart

這就是 Exchange Life(交換的生命) This is the Exchange Life (Exchanged Life)

這就是透過耶穌這道路,走回與天父重建的依戀關係 This is through Jesus the Way, walking back to rebuild attachment with the Father

經文 | Scripture

「你看父賜給我們是何等的慈愛,使我們得稱為神的兒女;我們也真是他的兒女。」——約翰一書 3:1 "See what great love the Father has lavished on us, that we should be called children of God! And that is what we are!" —1 John 3:1

我們與天父重建依戀關係 We rebuild attachment with the Father

不再是孤兒,而是兒女 No longer orphans, but children

這是福音的核心 This is the gospel's core

我們怎麼做 | How We Do It

Exchange Life 4/5 Group Discipleship

我們不辦研討會 We don't hold conferences

為什麼? Why?

因為研討會只能改變信念系統 Because conferences can only change belief systems

就像打掃空屋,屋子空了,但沒有生命中的好進來住 Like cleaning an empty house—house is empty, but good in life hasn't come to live in it

改變信念系統之後,你需要有人一起操練 After changing belief systems, you need people to practice with

透過耶穌這道路,走回與天父重建的依戀關係 Through Jesus the Way, walk back to rebuild attachment with the Father

這才是建立根部系統、打地基最重要的部分 This is the most important part of building root systems and laying foundations

而不只僅限於在信念系統上做改變 Not just limited to changing belief systems

經文 | Scripture

「你們要彼此相愛,像我愛你們一樣;這就是我的命令。」——約翰福音 15:12 "My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you." —John 15:12

愛不是知識 Love isn't knowledge

愛是在關係中操練 Love is practiced in relationships

在 4/5 小組中,我們操練彼此相愛 In 4/5 groups, we practice loving each other

我們做的是最難的事We Do the Hardest Thing

4/5 小組——一個可以實際操練新依戀關係的生命群體 4/5 Groups—a life community where you can actually practice new attachment relationships

• 有路徑有方向

• With path and direction

• 不停地操練

• Continuously practicing

• 一起失敗,一起慶祝

• Failing together, celebrating together

• 重新打基礎,打好新的路徑

• Re-laying foundations, building new paths

• 建立新的依戀關係

• Establishing new attachment relationships

• 用生命中的好來填滿空屋

• Fill the empty house with good in life

這不是聽課 This isn't attending classes

這是一起生活 This is living together

經文 | Scripture

「他們天天同心合意恆切地在殿裡,且在家中擘餅,存著歡喜、誠實的心用飯,讚美神,得眾民的喜愛。主將得救的人天天加給他們。」——使徒行傳 2:46-47 "Every day they continued to meet together in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate together with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved." —Acts 2:46-47

初代教會不只是聽道 The early church wasn't just hearing teaching

而是天天在一起生活 But living together daily

在真實的關係中成長 Growing in real relationships

為什麼叫「四人五腳」(4/5)?Why Called "Four People Five Legs" (4/5)?

想像一下: Imagine:

四個人,腳綁在一起,要一起向前走 Four people, legs tied together, moving forward together

這不容易 This isn't easy

• 有人會跌倒

• Someone will fall

• 有人會走錯方向

• Someone will go the wrong direction

• 有人會想放棄

• Someone will want to give up

但這就是真實的成長: But this is real growth:

在跌跌撞撞中,我們學會彼此扶持 In stumbling along, we learn to support each other

在犯錯中,我們一起探索新的路徑 In making mistakes, we explore new paths together

在真實中,我們經歷生命的轉化 In authenticity, we experience life transformation

最重要的是: Most importantly:

我們在操練新的依戀關係 We're practicing new attachment relationships

四個人,是最安全、走得最深、效果最穩定的結構 Four people is the safest structure, goes deepest, most stable results

經文 | Scripture

「我又告訴你們,若是你們中間有兩個人在地上同心合意地求什麼事,我在天上的父必為他們成全。因為無論在哪裡,有兩三個人奉我的名聚會,那裡就有我在他們中間。」——馬太福音 18:19-20 "Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them." —Matthew 18:19-20

耶穌應許:在小群體中,祂與我們同在 Jesus promises: in small groups, He is with us

四個人,正是這種親密的小群體 Four people is this kind of intimate small group

我們學到了什麼?一個美麗的畫面What We Learned: A Beautiful Picture

想像一個 18 個月大的孩子 Imagine an 18-month-old child

他正在學走路 Learning to walk

如果有一位情緒穩定的母親在旁邊 If there's an emotionally stable mother nearby

如果有一位父親帶著他在地上冒險犯錯 If there's a father taking him on ground adventures and mistakes

每次孩子跌倒,父親不是驚慌失措 Each time the child falls, father doesn't panic

而是抱著他哈哈大笑說:「原來此路不通,我們換條路!」 But holds him laughing: "So this path doesn't work, let's try another!"

這個孩子會如何定義「犯錯」? How will this child define "making mistakes"?

他會知道:犯錯不等於我不好 He'll know: making mistakes doesn't mean I'm bad

犯錯只是在探索,找到不通的路 Making mistakes is just exploring, finding paths that don't work

這就是健康的依戀關係 This is healthy attachment relationship

經文 | Scripture

「你們雖然不好,尚且知道拿好東西給兒女,何況你們在天上的父,豈不更把好東西給求他的人嗎?」——馬太福音 7:11 "If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!" —Matthew 7:11

天父就像這位父親 The Heavenly Father is like this father

當我們跌倒,祂不驚慌 When we fall, He doesn't panic

祂扶起我們,說:「我們換條路」 He lifts us up, saying: "Let's try another path"

這就是 4/5 小組的精神: This is the spirit of 4/5 groups:

✅ 有人不拖累地分享與分擔 ✅ Someone shares and shares burdens without being burdensome

✅ 有人不拯救地提出自己也沒答案的問題,一起摸索 ✅ Someone asks questions they don't have answers to without rescuing, exploring together

✅ 有人一起找出新的路徑,慶祝每一次的發現 ✅ Someone finds new paths together, celebrating each discovery

✅ 有人陪你一起操練新的依戀關係 ✅ Someone accompanies you practicing new attachment relationships

這不是「老師教學生」 This isn't "teacher teaching students"

這是「同行者彼此扶持」 This is "companions supporting each other"

這是「一起重新打地基,建立根部系統」 This is "re-laying foundations together, building root systems"

經文 | Scripture

「鐵磨鐵,磨出刃來;朋友相感也是如此。」——箴言 27:17 "As iron sharpens iron, so one person sharpens another." —Proverbs 27:17

我們不是在聽道理 We're not just hearing principles

而是在真實的關係中,彼此磨練 But sharpening each other in real relationships

我們的模式Our Model:L2L(Leader to Leader)

從情緒年齡的嬰兒期/兒童期到情緒年齡的成熟期From Emotional Age Baby/Child Stage to Emotional Age Mature Stage

大多數小組是 L2F(Leader to Follower): Most groups are L2F (Leader to Follower):

• 一個領袖,其他人跟隨

• One leader, others follow

• 領袖決策,成員執行

• Leader decides, members execute

• 這是情緒年齡的嬰兒期或情緒年齡的兒童期——需要被餵養

• This is emotional age baby stage or emotional age child stage—needs to be fed

但我們做的是 L2L(Leader to Leader): But we do L2L (Leader to Leader):

• 每個人都是領袖

• Everyone is a leader

• 每個人都承擔責任

• Everyone takes responsibility

• 每週輪流主持,彼此帶領

• Weekly rotation facilitating, leading each other

• 這是情緒年齡的成熟期——能夠彼此餵養

• This is emotional age mature stage—able to feed each other

經文 | Scripture

「我作孩子的時候,話語像孩子,心思像孩子,意念像孩子;既成了人,就把孩子的事丟棄了。」——哥林多前書 13:11 "When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me." —1 Corinthians 13:11

保羅說的「成人」不只是生理年齡 Paul's "becoming a man" isn't just physical age

更是情緒年齡——從需要被餵養到能夠餵養他人 But emotional age—from needing to be fed to able to feed others

這是最難的路,也是最少人走的路 This is the hardest path, also the path least traveled

但這是最有力量的路 But this is the most powerful path

因為這條路培養的不是跟隨者,而是領袖 Because this path develops not followers, but leaders

因為這條路建立的不是依賴,而是穩定的依戀關係 Because this path builds not dependence, but stable attachment relationships

經文 | Scripture

「你在許多見證人面前聽見我所教訓的,也要交託那忠心能教導別人的人。」——提摩太後書 2:2 "The things you have heard me say in the presence of many witnesses entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others." —2 Timothy 2:2

保羅的門訓模式不是製造依賴 Paul's discipleship model doesn't create dependence

而是倍增領袖 But multiplies leaders

這就是 L2L This is L2L

常常浸泡在好裡面| Constantly Soaking in Good

為什麼需要「不停地操練」?Why Need "Continuous Practice"?

因為: Because:

早年建立的依戀模式,不是上一堂課就能改變的 Attachment patterns established early cannot be changed in one class

需要在真實的關係中,不停地操練 Need continuous practice in real relationships

經文 | Scripture

「所以,我們只管坦然無懼地來到施恩的寶座前,為要得憐恤,蒙恩惠,作隨時的幫助。」——希伯來書 4:16 "Let us then approach God's throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need." —Hebrews 4:16

「隨時」意味著不停地 "In our time of need" means continuously

我們需要不停地來到神面前 We need to continuously come to God

在 4/5 小組中,我們不停地操練: In 4/5 groups, we continuously practice:

當你常常浸泡在好的裡: When you constantly soak in good:

✅ 你會開始不習慣不好的 ✅ You begin to become unaccustomed to bad

✅ 你不會再姑息不好的 ✅ You won't tolerate bad anymore

✅ 生命開始分別為聖 ✅ Life begins to be set apart

經文 | Scripture

「不要效法這個世界,只要心意更新而變化,叫你們察驗何為神的善良、純全、可喜悅的旨意。」——羅馬書 12:2 "Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God's will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will." —Romans 12:2

這不是知識可以做到的 This isn't something knowledge can do

這是生命的轉化 This is life transformation

這是根部系統的重建 This is root system reconstruction

需要在真實的關係中,不停地操練 Needs continuous practice in real relationships

這就是為什麼我們不辦研討會This Is Why We Don't Hold Conferences

太多人辦研討會了 Too many people hold conferences

我們做那件沒有人做的事:Exchange Life 4/5 We do what no one else does: Exchange Life 4/5

這是一條少有人走的路 This is a path less traveled

能走這條路,他的生命必定已經扎根在以耶穌為中心的根部系統裡 To walk this path, their life must already be rooted in a Christ-centered root system

否則從外表看,這條路比較困難且辛苦 Otherwise from the outside, this path looks more difficult and harder

但真正在內部,是甜美和輕省的 But truly on the inside, it's sweet and light

經文 | Scripture

「凡勞苦擔重擔的人可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。我心裡柔和謙卑,你們當負我的軛,學我的樣式;這樣,你們心裡就必得享安息。因為我的軛是容易的,我的擔子是輕省的。」——馬太福音 11:28-30 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." —Matthew 11:28-30

正如耶穌說的: Just as Jesus said:

外表看,這是負軛 From outside, this is bearing a yoke

但內部,是安息、容易、輕省 But inside, it's rest, easy, light

這就是 Exchange Life This is Exchange Life

我們的願景 | Our Vision

鋪設一條回家的路Laying a Path Back Home

我們很感恩前人為我們鋪的路 We're grateful for the path predecessors laid for us

讓我們有機會也成為這鋪設道路工程中的一分子 Allowing us the opportunity to become part of this road-laying project

但我們做的不只是重複前人的路 But we're not just repeating predecessors' path

我們與下一代一起設計、參與、鋪設新的道路 We design, participate, and lay new paths together with the next generation

因為未來是屬於孩子的 Because the future belongs to the children

所以鋪設道路的過程要邀請他們一起參與 So the road-laying process must invite them to participate

這是一條他們一起鋪下的美麗道路 This is a beautiful path they lay together

這是一條回家的路 This is a path back home

一條透過耶穌這道路,走回天父的路 A path through Jesus the Way, back to the Father

一條建立穩定依戀關係的路 A path to establish stable attachment relationships

經文 | Scripture

「看哪,我要做一件新事;如今要發現,你們豈不知道嗎?我必在曠野開道路,在沙漠開江河。」——以賽亞書 43:19 "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland." —Isaiah 43:19

神在做新事 God is doing a new thing

祂在曠野開道路 He is making a way in the wilderness

我們與下一代一起,鋪設這條新的道路 We with the next generation together, laying this new path

一條回家的路 A path back home

我們的核心價值 | Our Core Values

我們相信的事What We Believe

1. 真實比完美更有力量 Authenticity Is Stronger Than Perfection

我們不追求「看起來成熟」 We don't pursue "looking mature"

我們追求「真實地成長」 We pursue "genuinely growing"

經文 | Scripture

「但我們若在光明中行,如同神在光明中,就彼此相交,他兒子耶穌的血也洗淨我們一切的罪。」——約翰一書 1:7 "But if we walk in the light, as he is in the light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin." —1 John 1:7

在光明中行,就是真實 Walking in the light means authenticity

不隱藏、不假裝 No hiding, no pretending

這才能有真正的相交 This is how we have true fellowship

2. 透過耶穌這道路走回與天父重建的依戀關係比知識更重要Rebuilding Attachment with the Father Through Jesus the Way Is More Important Than Knowledge

改變信念系統不夠 Changing belief systems isn't enough

你需要有人一起操練 You need people to practice with

透過耶穌這道路,走回與天父重建的依戀關係 Through Jesus the Way, walk back to rebuild attachment with the Father

這才是建立根部系統、打地基最重要的部分 This is the most important part of building root systems and laying foundations

經文 | Scripture

「耶穌說:『我就是道路、真理、生命;若不藉著我,沒有人能到父那裡去。』」——約翰福音 14:6 "Jesus answered, 'I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me.'" —John 14:6

不是知識帶我們到父那裡 Knowledge doesn't bring us to the Father

而是耶穌這道路 But Jesus the Way

在 4/5 小組中,我們一起操練 In 4/5 groups, we practice together

走這條透過耶穌回到天父的道路 Walking this path back to the Father through Jesus

重建與天父的依戀關係 Rebuilding attachment relationship with the Father

3. 沒有人應該獨自走完這條路No One Should Walk This Road Alone

成長不是一個人的功課 Growth isn't a solo lesson

而是一段同行的旅程 But a journey of companionship

在真實的關係中,重建穩定的依戀 In real relationships, rebuild stable attachment

經文 | Scripture

「二人勝過一人,因為二人勞碌同得美好的果效。若是跌倒,這人可以扶起他的同伴;若是孤身跌倒,沒有別人扶起他來,這人就有禍了。」——傳道書 4:9-10 "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up. But pity anyone who falls and has no one to help them up." —Ecclesiastes 4:9-10

聖經清楚說:孤身跌倒,有禍了 The Bible clearly says: pity anyone who falls alone

我們需要同行者 We need companions

4. 每個人都可以是領袖Everyone Can Be a Leader

我們不製造依賴 We don't create dependence

我們培養獨立 We develop independence

我們建立穩定的依戀關係,不是拖累的依靠 We build stable attachment relationships, not burdensome dependence

經文 | Scripture

「你們各人的重擔要互相擔當,如此,就完全了基督的律法。各人必擔當自己的擔子。」——加拉太書 6:2,5 "Carry each other's burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. For each one should carry their own load." —Galatians 6:2,5

這兩節經文並存: These two verses coexist:

互相擔當,但各自負責 Carry each other, but each responsible

這就是健康的依戀關係 This is healthy attachment

5. 基督是生命,不是方法Christ Is Life, Not a Method

我們不是在推廣另一個自我提升計畫 We're not promoting another self-improvement plan

我們是在活出交換的生命 We're living the Exchanged Life

從「靠自己滿足需要」到「靠耶穌滿足需要」 From "relying on self to meet needs" to "relying on Jesus to meet needs"

經文 | Scripture

「我已經與基督同釘十字架,現在活著的不再是我,乃是基督在我裡面活著。」——加拉太書 2:20 "I have been crucified with Christ and I no longer live, but Christ lives in me." —Galatians 2:20

Exchange Life 的核心經文 The core scripture of Exchange Life

不是方法,而是生命的交換 Not a method, but life exchange

6. 常常浸泡在好裡Constantly Soaking in Good

當你常常浸泡在好的依戀關係裡 When you constantly soak in good attachment relationships

你會開始不習慣不好的 You begin to become unaccustomed to bad

你不會再姑息不好的 You won't tolerate bad anymore

生命開始分別為聖 Life begins to be set apart

經文 | Scripture

「你們要嘗嘗主恩的滋味,便知道他是美善;投靠他的人有福了!」——詩篇 34:8 "Taste and see that the LORD is good; blessed is the one who takes refuge in him!" —Psalm 34:8

「嘗嘗」意味著經歷 "Taste" means experience

當你經歷主的美善 When you experience the Lord's goodness

你就不會再姑息不好的 You won't tolerate bad anymore

你的下一步 | Your Next Step

你準備好了嗎?Are You Ready?

如果你: If you:

✅ 厭倦了「靠自己」的枯竭 ✅ Tired of the burnout of "relying on yourself"

✅ 想要從「嚇人的依靠」走向「穩定的依戀」 ✅ Want to move from "terrifying dependence" to "stable attachment"

✅ 渴望真實的連結,不再走落單的路 ✅ Long for authentic connection, no longer walking alone

✅ 想要透過耶穌這道路,走回與天父重建的依戀關係 ✅ Want to walk back to rebuild attachment with Father through Jesus the Way

✅ 願意從情緒年齡的嬰兒期/兒童期成長到情緒年齡的成熟期 ✅ Willing to grow from emotional age baby/child stage to emotional age mature stage

✅ 準備好不停地操練,重建根部系統 ✅ Ready to continuously practice, rebuild root systems

✅ 想要用生命中的好來填滿空屋 ✅ Want to fill the empty house with good in life

那麼,我們邀請你 Then, we invite you

經文 | Scripture

「凡勞苦擔重擔的人可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。」——馬太福音 11:28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." —Matthew 11:28

耶穌的邀請也是我們的邀請 Jesus' invitation is also our invitation

來吧,不要再靠自己 Come, stop relying on yourself

一起走這條回家的路 Walk this path home together

三個具體的下一步Three Concrete Next Steps

如果你是領袖:If You're a Leader:

👉 探索情緒成熟生態圈 👉 Explore the Emotional Maturity Ecosystem

了解如何建立 4/5 小組,培養 L2L 領袖 Learn how to build 4/5 groups, develop L2L leaders

建立穩定的依戀關係,而不是拖累的依靠 Build stable attachment relationships, not burdensome dependence

如果你是牧者:If You're a Minister:

👉 認識 Exchange Life & Network220 👉 Discover Exchange Life & Network220

在服事中找到安息,從枯竭到福杯滿溢 Find rest in ministry, from burnout to overflowing cup

從「靠自己」到「靠耶穌」 From "relying on self" to "relying on Jesus"

如果你想成長:If You Want to Grow:

👉 加入 4/5 Group Discipleship 👉 Join 4/5 Group Discipleship

在真實的群體中,一起操練新的依戀關係 In authentic community, practice new attachment relationships together

一起走這條透過耶穌回天父的路 Walk this path back to Father through Jesus together

用生命中的好來填滿空屋 Fill the empty house with good in life

經文根基總結 | Scripture Foundation Summary

我們所做的一切,都有聖經根據: Everything we do has biblical basis:

✅ 空屋困境 - 馬太福音 12:43-45(耶穌親自警告) ✅ Empty House Trap - Matthew 12:43-45 (Jesus' own warning)

✅ 透過耶穌回到天父 - 約翰福音 14:6(耶穌是道路) ✅ Back to Father through Jesus - John 14:6 (Jesus is the Way)

✅ Exchange Life - 加拉太書 2:20(與基督同釘十字架) ✅ Exchange Life - Galatians 2:20 (Crucified with Christ)

✅ 石心成為肉心 - 以西結書 36:26(神的應許) ✅ Stone heart to flesh heart - Ezekiel 36:26 (God's promise)

✅ 在小群體中 - 馬太福音 18:19-20(耶穌與我們同在) ✅ In small groups - Matthew 18:19-20 (Jesus with us)

✅ 彼此相愛 - 約翰福音 15:12(耶穌的命令) ✅ Love each other - John 15:12 (Jesus' command)

✅ 互相擔當與各自負責 - 加拉太書 6:2,5(平衡的依戀) ✅ Carry each other and own load - Galatians 6:2,5 (Balanced attachment)

✅ 倍增領袖 - 提摩太後書 2:2(保羅的門訓模式) ✅ Multiply leaders - 2 Timothy 2:2 (Paul's discipleship model)

✅ 常常浸泡在好的裡 - 詩篇 34:8(嘗嘗主恩) ✅ Constantly soak in good - Psalm 34:8 (Taste and see)

✅ 不停地操練 - 希伯來書 4:16(隨時來到施恩座前) ✅ Continuous practice - Hebrews 4:16 (Come to throne of grace)

核心信念 | Core Belief

從空屋到滿屋

From Empty House to Full House

不是用知識填滿 Not filled with knowledge

不是用方法填滿 Not filled with methods

而是用生命中的好來填滿 But filled with good in life

透過耶穌這道路,用新的連結與依戀關係來填滿 Through Jesus the Way, filled with new connections and attachment relationships

從「靠自己」到「靠耶穌」

From "Relying on Self" to "Relying on Jesus"

不再是「靠自己來滿足自己的需要」 No longer "relying on self to meet own needs"

而是「靠著主來滿足自己的需要」 But "relying on the Lord to meet own needs"

從「嚇人的依靠」到「穩定的依戀」

From "Terrifying Dependence" to "Stable Attachment"

不再是「拖累的依靠」 No longer "burdensome dependence"

而是「負責任的依靠」 But "responsible dependence"

在 4/5 小組中,不停地操練 Continuously practicing in 4/5 groups

重建根部系統,打好新的地基 Rebuild root systems, lay new foundations

從「改變信念」到「透過耶穌這道路操練生命」

From "Changing Beliefs" to "Practicing Life Through Jesus the Way"

僅限於在信念系統上做改變,就像打掃空屋 Only changing belief systems is like cleaning an empty house

屋子空了,但沒有生命中的好進來住 House is empty, but good in life hasn't come to live in it

你需要有人一起操練 You need people to practice with

透過耶穌這道路,走回與天父重建的依戀關係 Through Jesus the Way, walk back to rebuild attachment with the Father

常常浸泡在好的裡 Constantly soaking in good

這才是建立根部系統最重要的部分 This is the most important part of building root systems

因為沒有人應該獨自走完這條路 Because no one should walk this road alone

這是一條回家的路 This is a path back home

一條透過耶穌這道路,走回天父的路 A path through Jesus the Way, back to the Father

一條建立穩定依戀關係的路 A path to establish stable attachment relationships

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✅ 每個核心概念都有聖經根據 ✅ Every core concept has biblical basis

✅ 強調「透過耶穌這道路」——正統神學 ✅ Emphasizes "through Jesus the Way"—orthodox theology

✅ 平衡「互相擔當」與「各自負責」

✅ Balances "carry each other" and "each responsible"

✅ 重建與天父的依戀關係——福音核心 ✅ Rebuild attachment with Father—gospel core

✅ 不貶低知識,而是說關係更重要 ✅ Doesn't devalue knowledge, but says relationship more important

✅ 引用耶穌親自講的空屋比喻 ✅ Quotes Jesus' own empty house parable

✅ 強調在群體中操練——初代教會模式 ✅ Emphasizes practicing in community—early church model

✅ Exchange Life 有清楚的經文支持(加拉太書 2:20) ✅ Exchange Life has clear scripture support (Galatians 2:20)

✅ L2L 模式符合保羅的門訓(提摩太後書 2:2) ✅ L2L model aligns with Paul's discipleship (2 Timothy 2:2)

✅ 所有核心價值都有對應經文 ✅ All core values have corresponding scriptures

📖 經文索引 | Scripture Index

為了方便查閱,這裡列出所有使用的經文: For easy reference, here are all scriptures used:

1. 傳道書 4:9-10 - 沒有人應該獨自走

2. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 - No one should walk alone

3. 以西結書 36:26 - 石心成為肉心

4. Ezekiel 36:26 - Stone heart to flesh heart

5. 馬太福音 12:43-45 - 空屋困境

6. Matthew 12:43-45 - Empty house trap

7. 約翰福音 14:6 - 耶穌是道路

8. John 14:6 - Jesus is the Way

9. 歌羅西書 3:21 - 父母可能傷害孩子

10. Colossians 3:21 - Parents can hurt children

11. 加拉太書 5:19-21 - 肉體的定義

12. Galatians 5:19-21 - Definition of flesh

13. 馬太福音 11:28 - 到我這裡來得安息

14. Matthew 11:28 - Come to me for rest

15. 撒母耳記上 16:7 - 神看內心

16. 1 Samuel 16:7 - God looks at heart

17. 約翰福音 8:32 - 真理使人自由

18. John 8:32 - Truth sets free

19. 加拉太書 6:2,5 - 互相擔當與各自負責

20. Galatians 6:2,5 - Carry each other and own load

21. 加拉太書 2:20 - Exchange Life 核心經文

22. Galatians 2:20 - Exchange Life core scripture

23. 約翰福音 4:14 - 生命的活水

24. John 4:14 - Living water

25. 約翰一書 3:1 - 天父的兒女

26. 1 John 3:1 - Children of God

27. 約翰福音 15:12 - 彼此相愛

28. John 15:12 - Love each other

29. 使徒行傳 2:46-47 - 初代教會群體生活

30. Acts 2:46-47 - Early church community living

31. 馬太福音 18:19-20 - 兩三個人聚會

32. Matthew 18:19-20 - Two or three gather

33. 馬太福音 7:11 - 天父的美善

34. Matthew 7:11 - Father's goodness

35. 箴言 27:17 - 鐵磨鐵

36. Proverbs 27:17 - Iron sharpens iron

37. 哥林多前書 13:11 - 從孩子到成人

38. 1 Corinthians 13:11 - From child to man

39. 提摩太後書 2:2 - 倍增領袖

40. 2 Timothy 2:2 - Multiply leaders

41. 希伯來書 4:16 - 隨時來到施恩座前

42. Hebrews 4:16 - Come to throne of grace

43. 羅馬書 12:2 - 心意更新而變化

44. Romans 12:2 - Transformed by renewing mind

45. 馬太福音 11:28-30 - 我的軛是容易的

46. Matthew 11:28-30 - My yoke is easy

47. 以賽亞書 43:19 - 神做新事

48. Isaiah 43:19 - God doing new thing

49. 約翰一書 1:7 - 在光明中行

50. 1 John 1:7 - Walk in light

51. 詩篇 34:8 - 嘗嘗主恩

52. Psalm 34:8 - Taste and see

🎯 給基督徒的話 | Words for Christians

如果你是基督徒,正在閱讀這個頁面: If you're a Christian reading this page:

我們所做的一切,都有聖經根據 Everything we do has biblical basis

我們不是在推廣心理學 We're not promoting psychology

而是在活出聖經的真理 But living out biblical truth

耶穌說:祂是「道路、真理、生命」 Jesus said: He is "the Way, Truth, and Life"

我們強調的是「道路」——關係的恢復 We emphasize "the Way"—restoration of relationship

透過耶穌這道路,走回與天父重建的依戀關係 Through Jesus the Way, walk back to rebuild attachment with the Father

這不是貶低真理(知識) This doesn't devalue truth (knowledge)

而是說:知識的目的是帶我們到父那裡去 But says: the purpose of knowledge is to bring us to the Father

如果只有知識,沒有關係的恢復 If only knowledge, without relationship restoration

那就像空屋——打掃乾淨了,但仍然是空的 That's like an empty house—cleaned, but still empty

這是耶穌親自警告我們的 This is Jesus' own warning to us

🙏 結語 | Closing

這是一個邀請This Is an Invitation

不是要批評你 Not to criticize you

不是要改變你的神學 Not to change your theology

而是邀請你 But to invite you

透過耶穌這道路 Through Jesus the Way

在真實的關係中 In real relationships

一起走回天父的路 Walk back to the Father together

重建穩定的依戀關係 Rebuild stable attachment

用生命中的好來填滿空屋 Fill the empty house with good in life

因為沒有人應該獨自走完這條路 Because no one should walk this road alone

經文 | Scripture

「凡勞苦擔重擔的人可以到我這裡來,我就使你們得安息。」——馬太福音 11:28 "Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest." —Matthew 11:28

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